Love Through a Telephoto Lens

We were shooting some video footage of a group of teenagers and they were kind of surprised when they saw the result on a TV screen. We were seated in a little cluster on the floor discussing various youth issues, and what surprised them was the fact that when they saw it on the screen they realized we had focused close-up on each individual as they were commenting. Of course, they went, “Oh, no! Look at me!” See, they thought it was going to be this big group shot. We didn’t want the viewers to be distracted by anyone else, so most of the time we would zoom our lens in a real tight close-up, so you would only see one person. The telephoto effect actually makes a big difference.

I’m Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about “Love Through a Telephoto Lens.”

Now, our word for today from the Word of God comes from Proverbs 5:15, and it’s talking about married love. It speaks about it in symbolic terms and then gets pretty direct. “Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.”

And then God expresses here as the Inventor of sex that He is, some of the joy that He intended married couples to have, “A loving doe,” it says, “a graceful deermay her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”

This is really a passage about focused love. It’s about a man who has eyes for only one woman and doesn’t let his springs overflow anywhere else, who really has decided there’s only one place for his love. As a result he enjoys a fulfilling and exciting relationship with her. Now, whether you’re a husband or a wife, this secret of happiness is still the same. Marital and sexual fulfillment is the byproduct of focused love. Lasered love.

Notice here it says, “Let your ability to express love be yours alone” in so many words. And then in the King James Version, I like the way it says, “Rejoice with the wife of your youth. Let her satisfy you always.” In other words there’s a choice here. Let her/let him be enough. I choose to focus my telephoto lens on one person; there’s no one else in my picture. As soon as you widen your focus, the discontentment, the dissatisfaction begins. Maybe you’ve been allowing other fantasies into your heart; maybe some of those sites you visited have fueled that kind of mental unfaithfulness.

Where should your heart be? Focusing all your fantasies on your husband or your wife. Those sexually-oriented pictures, the ads, the videos, the movies, the websites – they let other women and other men into a place that should be reserved for just one person. That’s the way The Creator made it.

Maybe you joke about having a wandering eye. That’s no joke! It dilutes your focus on that one man and that one woman. The soap opera love affairs, the flirtations with that other person, all those mental wanderings erode the excitement of focused love. Don’t betray your lifetime partner in your fantasies. You’ll both lose.

Decide to let her or let him be enough. Ask for Christ’s strength to narrow your focus and you’ll see just a close-up on one person. The best of married love is for those who choose love through that telephoto lens.