“My name is Idiot.” She’s only four years old, but when police in Hot Springs, Arkansas responded to a report of child abuse, that’s what she told them. The marks of abuse were all over her body. There were bruises everywhere, she had a black eye, she had scars on her back. Those will heal. But what about the names she’s been called? So many times that she actually thinks “Idiot” is her name.
But wait a minute! What about the names we’ve called people? Even people – maybe especially people – that we love. How many people we know carry invisible, but indelible scars from our own devastating words? It’s not that we necessarily mean to hurt. We’re just angry, or frustrated, or feeling unheard or ignored. As our emotions escalate, so do our words. And words are like bullets. Once they’re fired, you just can’t get them back.
As the Bible says, “Reckless words pierce like a sword” (Proverbs 12:18). We all know that’s true. We still feel the sting of the names we were called a long time ago, right? Even though the one who fired them at us has probably totally forgotten it.
It’s our children who are most damaged by our hurtful words, because children tend to become what we call them. Label them as “lazy” or “stupid” or “worthless” enough times, and it will stick. But then, so will “princess” or “smart” or “helper” or “fun.” Of course, kids also store what they hear their parents call each other in those heated moments; giving them tacit permission to speak disrespectfully in their relationships, too.
But family’s not the only place our words leave wounds. Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death” at school, at work, online, in all our close relationships. If people bled physically every time we wounded them verbally, I wonder what a trail we’d leave.
God puts it this way, “The tongue is a world of evil…it sets the whole course of life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell” (James 3:6). Personally, that’s one reason I know I need a personal Savior. I’ve found only one person strong enough to control that fire in me, and that is my death-crushing Jesus. He’s that strong.
King David was wise enough to know that we can’t conquer this verbal monster without some supernatural intervention. Thus, his prayer should probably be somewhere that I can see it every day – maybe where you see it too. It’s our word for today from the Word of God in Psalm 141:3 – “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.”
I’m thankful for the lasting imprint of something my wife told me years ago – and many times since: “Ron, don’t ever forget the power of your words.” I suspect a lot of us need that same reminder, huh? Because long after we’ve forgotten our “reckless words,” the person we wounded may be carrying a long and lasting scar from them.
What about all those names and putdowns that we ourselves carry from the scarring words of others? Well, I’m grateful that God has called me names, too: “God’s workmanship” (Ephesians 2:10). Created “in His own image” (Genesis 1:27). God says, “My treasured possession” (Exodus 19:5). He calls us “The temple of the living God” (2 Corinthians 6:16). And then, “My sons and daughters” (2 Corinthians 6:18). And He says we are purchased by the blood of His Son (Revelation 5:9).
If you’ve been beat down and you have thought you were worthless, you’ve got to take a trip up a hill called Golgotha (Skull Hill) and stand there at the foot of a cross where Jesus said you’re worth dying for; for your sins so you could be with Him forever.
Maybe you’ve never had that wonderful infusion of value and love that comes when you open your life to Jesus and you’d like to do that.
I urge you today, don’t put it off another day. Invite Jesus into your heart. That will be the best decision you’ve ever have made. You know those people who’ve called you all those other things? They really didn’t know who you are, who God says you are. So no one’s name is “idiot.” Not when God says, “You’re my masterpiece.”
Please pray this prayer and mean it from your heart, as you invite Jesus to be your Lord and Savior.
# Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and I ask that you would forgive me.
I believe that You died for my sins, and I believe that you have risen from the dead.
Today, I turn away from my sinful ways, and invite You to come into my heart and into my life.
Right now I confess you Jesus as the Lord of my soul.
I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior.
Jesus transform my life so that I may bring glory and honor to you alone.
Thank you Jesus for dying for me and giving me eternal life.
Amen.
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