Our dog, Grace, had just been on a long road trip with us, all the way from East London to Gauteng and back. It was a first for both of us, and somehow we survived the adventure!
The trip completely disrupted his routine, and after two exhausting days on the road, Grace was out of sorts. When we got home, she headed straight for the kitchen and squeezed herself under a small white cabinet. There was hardly space for her, but she stayed there, sulking.
Grace wouldn’t come out to eat and ignored everyone’s attempts to coax her out. Even the two people she usually listens to tried their best “dog talk,” but nothing worked. Finally, her main human reached a hand under the cabinet and gentle Grace gave a quick nip! That day, she definitely had attitude.
Our word for today from the Word of God comes from 1 Corinthians 13. You may recognize this as being maybe the greatest description of what love really is like in all the Bible. And in a world that’s pretty confused about love, 1 Corinthians 13 is more relevant than ever. As you listen, would you think about the people you love and measure how you’re treating them by these words from God?
Here’s verse 4: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.” See, love is not a feeling. It’s not words. It’s not the official status of certain people. It’s an act or way of treating people – certain ways that I’d like to underscore from these verses. If you love someone it means you treat them with patience, you treat them kindly, and you look for what you can do for them, not what they can do for you. And your love doesn’t get easily angered, it doesn’t nip at people.
I think that too often we’re all like the dog. We’re exhausted, we’re feeling low, we’re thinking of ourselves a lot. Inwardly we’ve crawled under the cabinet, and instead of responding, we bite, we snarl, we punish people for needing us when we’re low. But love is better than that. Just look at the One whose life we’re trying to copy.
Look at Jesus, experiencing the greatest agony any human has ever experienced as He hangs on a cross, bearing in His soul all the hell of all of us. Is He lashing out? Is He demanding to be left alone in His pain? No, He’s reaching out. Jesus – He is patient, He’s kind, He’s not rude, He’s not self-seeking, and He’s not easily angered on the cross. He’s caring about the need of the man on the next cross, the needs of His mother. He’s forgiving those who nailed Him there. I want to be like that, don’t you?
I know that my tired times, my stressed-out times, my hurting times, and a lot of times they don’t bring out the best in me. I’ve nipped at too many people I’m supposed to love in times like that. But those are the times when love shows its true colors, when it’s sacrificial, when you give it at a time when you feel like giving out.
So maybe you’d like to join me in making Jesus Lord of your ugly times. You say, “Lord, when I’m like this I’m often not like You. Please re-train me Lord. Help me to draw deeply on Your grace and Your love right now. Give me a victory in this time when I feel just like I want to focus on me. Empower me to love people in the times that I would normally be plain old ugly.”
Remember, you will experience Christ’s love and Christ’s power on a new level as He overrules your tendency to snarl or to bite. The people around you don’t need a wound from you, they need supernatural love